ADHD Coach Jane


I started working with Jane Milrod a year ago. At that point I needed 30 more credits to get my bachelor’s degree, which I’d been working toward on and off for over a decade. I was feeling discouraged because I’d recently failed twice to complete a gen ed required course because I found it so dull. Jane told me that she could help me graduate in a year, and she wouldn’t use shame—I didn’t believe that was possible. I thought that without shame, I’d find a way to lie to her and get out of working on my classes consistently. With her compassionate approach, Jane taught me how to realistically evaluate how much time I could work without burning out, determine how much time I needed to accomplish tasks, and break down assignments into chunks. By doing this, I was able to finish my homework in less time, learn the material better, and improve my confidence in my ability to produce good work.

Jane also taught me how to not give up. By encouraging me without shame, Jane made me less afraid to communicate when I needed help, and she helped me overcome my all or nothing attitude. At that time, I truly thought that my ADHD was debilitating and would prevent me from having a full life.

I was diagnosed with ADHD in high school, and the only treatment I received until I met Jane was medication. I thought that medication would fix all problems related to ADHD. If my medication didn’t work, that meant I was incapable of working past those problems. I was able to get through high school because of the competitive atmosphere, support from my teachers, and my highly structured schedule. My issues with time management combined with more free time and less peer pressure made college much more challenging.

I recently completed my final two courses for my bachelor’s degree. Jane helped me do this without shame, panic, or a constant feeling of dread. She supported me my trying to figure out how to overcome my mental blocks, without judgment. I now miss the feeling I got from completing an assignment.

If you have a child with ADD/HD, then you have to advocate for him/her throughout their life. This responsibility does not end when the child is done with secondary school and the legalities and accommodations that are in place during elementary, middle, and high school public education are not mandatory in the higher education setting. Despite having parent’s that were successful in school and in their chosen occupations, we were unable to meet his need for academic success. If we did not have the services of an organized academic coach who was able to relate to our son as a mentor and guide and help him fill in the gaps of weaknesses that he has in organizational skills and written expression he would not have been able to be successful at the competitive university that he wanted to attend. Jane Milrod was able to steer him through the rigorous requirements of this competitive and challenging environment and did this without doing the work for him, but guided him through the process of planning and executing above average college level work in ways that his own parents could not assist with. She was able to help him understand how to interpret assignments correctly, plan and write numerous papers with multiple assignments due within close time periods, and affectively complete college level work in the competitive setting that he wanted to be part of.

Without ADHD Coach Jane he would not have been able to be as successful and may have had to re-take courses over again and graduate much later. He could have possibly become disillusioned with academia and become a statistic in the college dropout arena. Jane was available for him and showed him how to tackle his challenging workload without doing the work for him. We are so grateful to be able to see our son feel the pleasure of success by working hard for what he wanted by doing the work himself under the guidance of a mentor who understands the nuts and bolts of how the ADD brain works and how to maximize his strengths and minimize his weaknesses. We are extremely appreciative of how she was able to reach and guide him.

We look forward to seeing him succeed further in his endeavors and observe his enhanced self-esteem and positive outlook. We are extremely fortunate to have found someone who could provide the tools our son needed.

Dear Jane. You deserve it all. You have the heart of a coach who deeply cares and understands. You have the curiosity of a detective who wants to know who the person is you are coaching and what they truly want. You have the presence of mind to be open, non-judgmental and detached from any outcome other than the one your clients’ want to pursue.

Jane, you have developed your skills through a passionate dedication to learning and practicing the coaching skill sets and integrating them in a powerful way to empower those individuals who will be smart enough to coach with you.

CONGRATULATIONS!!! YOU deserve it. I can’t wait to hear about all the great things you will be doing and the people who you will positively impact.

Jane has been a very compassionate and effective coach for our son, teaching him new ways of organizing and managing himself and his time. In a very short time, he developed a deep respect for her which made their work together even more productive.

Hiring Jane as an ADHD coach is one of the best things we’ve ever done for our daughter. Jane brings an array of tools, techniques, insight and patience, along with incredible knowledge and experience in the field of ADHD.  We’ve seen our daughter gain confidence in her academic abilities, improve her grades, plan and follow a schedule, take responsibility for homework, and develop a better understanding of her own unique requirements to manage her ADHD. Our daughter looks forward to her sessions with Jane, and as her parents, we can focus more on our relationship with our daughter rather than battles over homework or time management.  Jane works to help and understand her clients –  she really understands and “gets” our daughter. We are so grateful for Jane! 

Jane has been an incredible coach to help me navigate my ADHD.

 Before starting I filled out a survey so she could personalize her support for me. Highlights of her support for me as sharing research on ADHD, informative books, and helping refine strategies I was already using.

 Initially, even just having her there to encourage me and having the time deliberately set aside made a world of difference. Further on, I found myself internalizing the more useful strategies and finding success even between our sessions.

 I cannot believe I’ve gone so long, as an exhausted 30-something struggling without appropriate medication, before having the support of a coach like her. I would absolutely recommend Jane to anyone with ADHD.

I work as a controls engineer in the energy sector.  Prior to working with Jane, I was stuck in a cycle of procrastination and overwork. To escape the cycle, Jane helped me learn how to break up nebulous projects into actionable tasks, how to structure a schedule that builds off my natural rhythms of work and rest, and how to sanity check my time estimates for completing projects. She held me accountable as I established all these new habits and 3 months after finishing our work together I am still on top of my assignments. 

Coach Jane honestly changed my life.  She got me moving way faster and with more clarity in the direction I want to go.  

I went into the coaching thinking she was going to help me get better at focusing on things I don’t want to focus on. But it was the opposite.

Coach Jane helped me hone in on what I am most passionate about, and the tangible steps I can take to create the life I desire.  Talking to her made me aware of the excuses and narratives I tell myself that get in the way of taking action.  She challenged me to harness my focus, and take action in a more radical way than I am used to taking.  It broke me out of a shell I hadn’t even realized I was in!

Coach Jane helped me begin to build/create a life that capitalizes on my strengths.  She helped me remember what I had always felt as a child but in adulthood had forgotten- that when focused on the right type of action, when engaged with life in a way that is creative and exciting, ADHD is far from a disorder- it is a superpower.

Jane brings an exhaustive array of tools, techniques, and insights to her practice, in addition to incredible patience and compassion. Jane’s coaching has helped our daughter gain confidence in her academic abilities, relying on her own schedule, taking responsibility for homework, and improving her grades.  Jane has helped her develop a better understanding of her own unique requirements for managing her ADHD. She looks forward to her sessions with Jane and invariably comes away upbeat and positive. Hiring Jane as an ADHD coach is one of the best things we’ve done for our daughter. It has also been a huge relief for us as parents. 

I. Background:
Jane Milrod, ADHD Coach
Jane began work as an ADHD coach in 2007.
Jane serves as a private consultant for members of the community of all ages, she helps to ADHD individuals develop higher function in academic environments and teach practical solutions to the challenges of ADHD.
Jane has struggled with ADHD her whole life and still attended Rutgers Honors program and graduated with a 3.9 GPA.

II. Why I chose Jane [for the project]:

I chose Jane as the subject of my interview project because she has had a profound influence on my life personally. I am one of Jane’s clients and regardless of my academic performance she has taught to how to restructure the way I learn. Jane provides a valuable service to her community; she is a source of help and genuine positivity for students with learning differences. Jane’s specialty is students with ADHD; she has done extensive research into neuroscience and cognition in the later part of her life. Jane’s role in the community goes beyond the traditional consultant-client relationship. She actually helps change the way her clients approach schoolwork. She works with people beyond the one hour per week session by teaching her clients to contact her when they have mental blocks or inspiration to be productive. Then she shows them how to work within their own abilities in spite of the struggles they have with ADHD.

III. 5 Most Outstanding Qualities:

  1. An outstanding quality of Jane is that she is an excellent active listener. While listening, Jane develops an approach to help aid her clients with their problem. Even though she often knows the best conclusion, she forces me to find it myself without simply giving me the answer. Jane utilizes the top active listening skills with great facility. She is so invested in her clients she asked me how I thought of such great questions and shifted the conversation towards my work in the midst of my interview.
  2. She is passionate about her work to the extent that she shares her expertise with the community through volunteering. She even started her own local chapter of CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity disorder). Jane had the opportunity to pursue a multiplicity of higher paying, more prestigious jobs, yet she ultimately chose to give back to her community and help advocate for educational equality for students with learning differences.
  3. Jane has an extremely positive attitude. Jane sits on the edge of her chair, makes eye contact and really strives to connect with people. Her enthusiasm and positive energy is contagious. Jane often works with unhappy and frustrated clients. Her attitude serves as a catalyst for individual goal setting and completed work.
  4. Jane is open and honest about her own personal journey with ADHD. Jane has been personally affected by ADHD. Through tackling her own learning differences and then becoming a professional in the field she can combine the facts and latest research with sharing her own personal experiences. This openness and honesty with clients helps them to hear some hard truths for growth. She is a living example of a highly successful person who lives every day with ADHD.
  5. As much as people with ADHD try to procrastinate doing their work, Jane is a firm believer in teaching accountability. In the interview she made it very clear that she wants to help her clients succeed. Through helping them set goals, attach dates and time to goals, and then report back to her on how they have followed through, she sets a system for success.

IV. Interview Questions:

  1. What is the most rewarding aspect of your job?
    Seeing the light bulb for people once they understand how their brain works and enabling them to use it.
    It’s like a portal being open.
    Helping people to stop being upset about their ability to think.
  2. What motivated to pursue your line of work?
    -didn’t want people to experience the shame and frustration I had experienced and that I saw my children experiencing in the realm of education
    I saw people were different and wanted to help teach different ways of approaching
    -trying to help
    -faster for them to get answers
    -make it easier for people who struggle
    -help them get better faster
    -shorten the process for others
  3. How does mentoring change your perception of your environment? What has this career path taught you about the world around you?
    -students are meant to learn from one another
    -perception that people should be able to have all knowledge delivered is inaccurate
    -learning comes from doing, working with other people>br>
    -I loved living in Princeton, now I do even more because I know more people
    -I wanted to help others, ended doing that and enhancing my own perception through my own clients
    -I could mirror neurons, I could grow
    -the heart grows, stretching of a connection
    -Priceless–struggle and the gifts are things to be worked on
  4. What are your greatest aspirations?
    -to have more of a systemic influence
    -help build understanding of adhd as a gift
    -more leeway given and accommodation
    -broadening understanding amongst the public in all of academia
    -Reduction of stigma- increase of acceptance
    -enhancement of school system to be more accommodating
    -bring this ADHD education to underserved population
    -socioeconomic gap between delivery of knowledge and services
    -bothered by unfair distribution
    -help halt the negative consequence of adhd in low income
  5. How would you recommend a young person discern how they want to spend the rest of their life? How did you?-recognize your passion and follow
    -identify your strengths and build on your strengths
    -do what matters to you
    -pay attention
    -worked as hard as I could
    -got a prestigious job– got tired of it/quit, picked something she felt right doing
    -was hyper aware of what I liked
    -was honest with myself
    -always people wanting you to do the wrong thingV. Similarities/Differences in listening skillsJane is more focused in her listening whereas I am trying to learn the basics of active listening. Jane has essentially mastered the ability to listen and perceive exactly what her clients are saying. She is able to formulate questions to keep the client focused and targeted on the issue at hand where I mainly aim to simply reflect feelings. I have actually learned much of my active listening skill from being around her because she never dips into the less effective methods of listening. She asks questions to make her clients think deeper about what they are trying to say. Her questions might also help her clarify the exact trouble that the client is having. I hope to continue to learn from her arsenal of active listening methods.


    VI. What I Learned:

    This interview reconfirmed my interest in non profit jobs. Though it has sort of been hammered into my brain that I need to get a job in finance or business, a charitable route might be perfect. Every time I am with Jane I learn something new. Jane’s activity in CHADD and her desire to help underprivileged kids with ADHD illustrates the power pursuing passion. She has given her life purpose. Though the field of helping and counseling is not glamorous, it is invaluable to our society today. People like Jane serve people around them, they dedicate their time and energy towards the enrichment of the community and I find that to be very admirable.

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